Dance, Dance, Revolution

Today’s post goes out to Pastor Tim Poetzl. Apparently, he’s come up with a unique way to teach his young children the art of genuine forgiveness and apologies.

It goes like this:

1. have your children hold hands and face each other.

2. next, they must either sing songs made up on the spot of how much they love each other,

or

3. tell each other things they like about each other.

He was laughing in the recounting of a recent incident involving one such “punishment” because of how funny and hard it is for children to have to apologize this way…funny, and hard, and effective.  You see, when I was growing up, my siblings and I fought “like junkyard dogs” as my mother would say. It’s not like we had any lasting bitterness towards each other, but…siblings fight–it’s one of the facts of life unless you are the product of immaculate conception. My parent’s method for getting us to make up? Slow dancing. That’s right–you thought holding hands and singing songs to your nemesis sounded painful? Try slow dancing, complete with the arm on the shoulder and the hand on the waist as you twirl the living room to the “dancing” music sung by your delighted parents while you hold on to the one person you nearly came to blows with moments earlier.  See, slow dancing has a way of making most people feel somewhat ridiculous, and when you feel ridiculous and that ridiculous moment is shared with another person who feels equally ridiculous–you get a completely different perspective on the tiff you were just having.

AJ and I can’t wait to try out both of these methods some day.

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2 thoughts on “Dance, Dance, Revolution

  1. That’s great. I love both ideas! I am going to use both along with what my girls call “the step game”. They start on opposite sides of the room and can take a step every time they say something nice about the other. Then they have to hug. It works well although the older ones have become quite accomplished back handed complimentors!

  2. Milena and Sam says:

    Hey Pearl,

    Sam and I have enjoyed reading your blog occasionally. He listened to me read this blog entry and then told me what his parents used to do when he and his siblings had to apologize to each other…
    They would have to sing a little VBS song called “Love Is Kind” while looking into each others eyes. He sang it for me and it’s very funny… and inevitably the kids would laugh while singing it… no matter how frustrated they were with each other. 🙂

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